I told my Maoi that UK bans Paan

Earlier this year my youngest sister got married, I as the elder brother took full responsibility of organising. Bengalis being Bengali; we consume a lot of paan and designer spicy "killi" (paan wrapped in sugar and spice and in some cases tobacco leaf). I had to order two cases of paan so the women folk could decorate several thaal. 

At that time there were a restriction on Paan import from India (tested positive for salmonella), that is not a good thing, especially as the local Grocer decided to treat this shortage as a way of making a lot of money. There were stories of the local Mas Bazaars charging £1 for two leaves of paan (yes thats right - TWO!!). A kilo of paan reached £55. I managed to buy two cases (from a guy I know who works at one of the shops ordered directly from wholesalers for me). 

There are of course various health warning on Paan consumption. My new "Maoi", consumes a kilo of paan per week. It is fortunate that my new Thaloi is a very wealthy man and made sure that the supply never runs short. 

What’s going to happen to us poor people (FYI: I don't consume paan). It is going to cost more than certain class C drugs and definitely more than a packet of cigarettes. We need to look ahead and start opening a rehabilitation centre for our dear uncles and aunties “The Priory Paan Clinic”. I wonder, if ever there is a total ban on Paan - what will Maoi do?
Any suggestions??

UK Bengali run mosques for village politics

I don’t know if this is the case in bigger cities, buts certainly in smaller cities and towns, I have visited, I have always come across two faction (at the very least if not more) of the Bengali community. The Communities are divided, mainly by the Bangladeshi political views they subscribe to. There is always a fight to be the Chairman and most certainly the seat is taken by the wealthiest guy (first generation sasa) in town and supported with the riches that his Alcohol trade brings.

I was in a City (that shall remain nameless), at Friday Jummah, the chairman picked up a chair to attack some one who opposed his suggestion. This was 5 years ago and he is still the Chairman, mainly because everyone is scared of him (his is the only phone that will ring before prayers and he will answer it and walk to the back room to finish his conversation, his little management group will also sit facing the worshipers like the imam during and after prayers. And above all they will wait for him during normal prayers if he is a few minutes late (and is expected). The Eid prayer will always be delayed for more late comers) . This has divided the community wider. Since then the opposing group raised money and opened another mosque. I have seen similar cases all across smaller towns and cities in the UK.

The second generation seem to support the first generations corrupted politics, mainly because their fathers and uncles support it (and as the heavy mob), but you can tell they have a dislike for what they are doing and supporting. They are the ones who will mingle with everyone on both sides and they do not discriminate when it comes to friendship, but only take sides when it comes to the mosque politics.

What I have found is that, the new comers (and what I mean is that the “lal passport group”, who came here on spouse visa). They tend to support the first generation with their politics in the mosque.  I feel as though they think the mosque is their only political battle ground, the one they left behind in Bangladesh.

The third  generation (British born), here is what I struggle with, nowhere near supporting their fathers and uncles, some only attend Friday prayers, or have a younger more religious group they are involved with (that is another topic for another day).

Is the mosque a place for politics?? Are we waiting for the first generation to pass before things clean up and social unrest within Bengali communities recedes?

Why British Bengali's take no interest in Bangladeshi Culture

It always baffles me as to why a lot of second and third generations of British Bengali's take no interest in Bangladesh or its culture? I'd love to hear from anyone that can offer some insight.

It was the same for me (things are changing). I found young BB's (British Bengali) snub everything about Bangladesh. They tend not to talk about its rich culture and or its history. Oblivious to the fact that it is such a great country.

Again this may not be the story across the UK. Young BB's tend not to listen to Bengali music, read in Bengali or even catch up with the latest current affairs of Bangladesh.

I used to be involved with a Bengali Community organisation and in the latter years, the younger generations took no interest in volunteering with the group.

I would love to hear what people have to say on this.

Thanks

why blog

So here it is.

Why do I want to blog? why do you want to blog?
Well for me,
I've been meaning to blog for quite sometime. I do have a desire to write (in my head), perhaps  keep a journal. Perhaps to share my sad troubled life with some one that won't start kicking a man when he is down. May be it will be therapeutic. Perhaps it will give me the ability to improve my writing, the style of writing.. may be I will find  myself, may be just may be I will discover what I will blog about. May be I just need appreciation. Will it massage my ego? will I become more disciplined and filter the crap?  or as  other bloggers have identified blogging as to giving them a direction in life..

Who knows, lets just enjoy it. Let this be an experiment

But where do I start? what do I want to write about?

1 - Well I love a challenge at work. I run a little start up business consultancy practice? Should I write about work??

2- I do have a wife, a toddler and a newborn. Do I want to write about how annoying they are at the moment as my wife won't let me sleep in the spare room and the toddler won't sleep in his bed, as he feels left out because of the attention we have to give the newborn? hmmm.. But I wont do that.  (there will be blood)..

3- I am from sunny Wales, should I talk about current affairs in Wales?? may be not, (perhaps something about the NHS)

4- I am Bangladeshi, been in Wales most of my life, yet I know nothing about Bangladesh, I have not been there. However I am really looking to make some time to find out more about the culture of Bangladesh, perhaps its History (like Wales, Bangladesh fought a War over the mother language). Akram Khan a great Brtish Bengali Classic Dance artist really inspired me to learn more about my own roots. Or I may have felt challenged by a Tamil friend (who is studying South Asian politics) just happens to tell me more about Bangladesh than I ever knew.

5- I do enjoy community regeneration work. Was involved with a Charity for about 17 years -. Been away from it for the last two.. I miss it, it was my only passion.. have lots of input for ethnic minority groups?

6- I have too many interests that I want to explore, I think its time to filter. DO I stay anonymous??

Any suggestions would be welcomed, especially words of encouragement -  (do excuse the grammar, I have rushed this, more (better, quality) tomorrow.

Thank you